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This Reflective Draft will show how marriage can be good and not so good in different culture. It taking from Marriage is a private affair and compare with taking a husband. Marriages is said to be a beautiful thing, but in life sometimes things take a turn for the worst. In some point of time we as ladies all wish to get marriage and we all dream of a fairy tale wedding to a prince charming. This story will demonstrate how marriage can change how your life.
This story is tell how this man name" Nnemeka" want to get marriage to someone that her family did not set her up for. In some parts of African they arrange for their daughter to get married and that person have to be of the same tribe of his family. This is the case in this story. This story takes place in "Lagos Nigeria" On" (pg 374)" it tell of how is father is explaining to him about this girl he suppose to marriage. "I have found a girl who will suit you admirably; her name is Ugoye Nweke", now here is where religion comes in, this girl was raise in a Christian household and this girl is taught how to be a wife to her husband. In this custom the marriage will last for a long time because she knows where her place is as a wife. I believe in this type of marriage it will not last for a long time, how you can marry someone you don't even love. For man to love someone he does not know is hard, especially if they don't really know anything about them. "Nnaemeka ask his father forgiveness ". His father replied forgiveness for what? Nnaemeka replied I don't love her." When you are raise in a different culture, you are to follow whatever custom that family practice, even if that what you believe in.
In taking a husband it this story is some what different to marriage a private affair. This story tells of how two couples got together. In this culture which is Chinese, some woman is not always array by their parent. In this particular case because of which Hong father was a high power man suddenly died, so that left Hong to open to marry whomever she please daughter, but right now she is not ready to get marry "Hong mother suggest that she get marry. She said "If I die tomorrow, I want be able to close my eyes unless you have a good husband." Every woman ought to marry; if she didn't people would think her abnormal." Hong had like this guy that was from the Chens family it was the son. His name is young feng. Young feng is looking for true love that what the aunt replied. "Hong said for him to go to hell," Mrs. Chen said out loud" .No girl's words mean business in her marriage. That's why we parents arrange things for them. Mrs. Chen is making it hard for Hong to marry her son, that why she is forcing for Hong to make a decision. There were two other girls wait to get marry to young feng. If Hong did not make her choice yet, Hong choose man by what position they held that how she wand up with how she have right now. It funny how we choose to get married, some of us fall in love with someone and others are forces to marry someone they have never met or someone they know that they can not have. In both of this story it tells how marriage can make a person who they are and how things can turn out for good or for bad.
"Fair is foul, and foul is fair" is the infamous line that begins Shakespeare's Macbeth. This line highlights the relationship between one's appearance and the reality of their nature. In this play the connection between appearance and reality is paradoxical; what appears in one a way in reality may not be that way.
Throughout the play Shakespeare uses paradoxes to show the connection between appearance and reality. He writes, "God's benison go with you and with those/
That would make good of bad and friends of foes." His paradoxical words convey there is no relationship between one's appearance and their reality; it is as if reality and appearance are complete opposites. Shakespeare uses character's deception to prove his theory on appearance and reality.
In the first act of the play it is discovered that the Thane of Cawdor has been a traitor to Scotland. Duncan is deceived by the Thane's false appearance:
No more that Thane of Cawdor shall deceive
Go, pronounce his present
Death, and with his formal title greet Macbeth.
Once again Duncan makes the mistake of judging by appearance and gives the title to Macbeth. Now Macbeth the next Thane of Cawdor's appearance will deceive him, which was Macbeth's intention.
Lady Macbeth instructs him: "Look like the' innocent flower/but is the serpent under." By using the serpent there is a biblical reference to the deceiving serpent that tricked Eve to eat the apple causing original sin. The serpent did not appear to Eve as being harmful just as Macbeth did not appear to Duncan as harmful, but just as the serpent did Macbeth had a destructive nature that was concealed by his false face and dishonest words. Duncan continues: "There's no art/to find the mind's construction in the face." There was no way that Duncan could have seen through Macbeth's honorable appearance to his vaulting ambition that would kill anyone for the crown. His appearance deceived his destructive nature.
Shakespeare also uses language of borrowed clothes to convey Macbeth's unfitness for his title. As the nobles learn of Macbeth's nature they realize that his title was based on his appearance and not on his reality. To be king one had to be honorable, trustworthy, and good natured which was what Macbeth's appearance conveyed, but his nature was the exact opposite: ruthless and immoral. The noble Angus replies, "Now does he feel his title/Hang loose upon him, like a giant's robe. His title was too great for the absence of greatness that he had. His appearance was deserving of his title, but his reality lacked all the greatness that his appearance carried.
Macbeth's had a title, an honor, and a life all riding on his appearance. When his reality was discovered he lost all that he had. His appearance deceived all for sometime, but in the end his reality came out. Macbeth's appearance was paradoxical to his reality. He seemed fair, but in reality was foul natured.
There have been many authors throughout history that have written dramatic plays. One of the most famous play write authors was William Shakespeare. In Shakespeare's play Hamlet many people wrote critiques on Hamlet and discussed Hamlet and had their response to the play?
One of the main questions that came from Hamlet was that is Hamlet mad. According to Sam Portlock, Hamlet was "stressed, certainly, but sane". This statement is very accurate and bold. He also says that when Hamlet is ever "alone with Horatio, he is sane enough". Both of these statements are very bold but accurate at the same time and I agree with him. Hamlet never really seemed mad to me, at least that's what I got from the book. He always kept cool even knowing the fact that his uncle killed his father. He never wanted to murder Claudius; he just knew that he had to. I honestly believe Hamlet handled himself pretty good for being in the situation that he was in. Claudius I believe was the true mad one because he killed his own brother tried covering it up and then married his brother's wife to become the new king. Claudius was mad in the fact that he couldn't face the truth for what he has done and he had to try to cover him up and when Hamlet found out what happened he still could not face the truth. The fact that he ended up killing Claudius doesn't make Hamlet mad, it makes him sane because he was hurt when he lost his father and he knew that he needed to seek this revenge on Claudius. This was a not because he wanted too either it was because he knew he had to.
Another big response that came from Hamlet was if Hamlet was a hero or a coward. According to Keri Gee "Hamlet was a hero". I agree with this statement because Hamlet was defiantly a hero and he revenged his father's death. Hamlet was set to go seek revenge on his father's death because he found out from the ghost who and actually what killed his father. Once he confirmed and was sure King Claudius had killed his father he knew that he had to seek this revenge even he knew that he did not want to kill him. This makes Hamlet a true hero because he was not in fear of anything he just got the job done. Claudius is a coward but not Hamlet because Claudius tried killing Hamlet by trying to send Laertes after him and killing him in a duel. In the end Claudius was killed with his own trickery and that's what he disserved because he is a coward. Claudius truly deserved to die because he was a very big coward in many different ways such as killing his own brother and trying to cover up what he had done by killing Hamlet also because he knew that he had known.
Many people believe that Hamlet was also mad and was not a hero but a coward but I think other wise. I believe this because Hamlet went through a lot in this book in all of a matter of only a few months and he still kept his cool. Hamlet never really lost it he was just a little angry at times because his father was killed by Claudius and he tried covering it up. This should not make Hamlet mad because he is upset about his father's death and he does not like his mother's decisions in marrying Claudius. I believe that it was perfectly normal to be a little upset and angry at times in the book because Hamlet truly went trough a lot. Hamlet was a true hero and was completely sane in my own opinion. In the end of the story Hamlet ended up dyeing but in the process he took Claudius's life with his own and pretty much everyone else. Hamlet was a hero and no coward. There have been a lot of responses to Hamlet but these are some of the biggest responses that come out of one of the most famous and well-written plays in history.
In Frank Chipasula's poem "Those Rainy Mornings" the speaker is talking about his aunt Gwalanthi. The speaker tells us what a wonderful loving person his aunt is. In the first section the speaker tells us how his aunt would wake up at the crack of dawn and build a fire. Then she would begin cooking porridge. In the second section of the poem the speaker talks about waking up "out of the nagging nightmare." Then the speaker describes his aunt a little bit more, "her soft but husky call." In the last section the speaker talks about how kind his aunt is to take care of his brothers and sisters while his parents "strayed to the copper mines."
This poem makes me think about my grandma and all the wonderful things she has done for me. The speaker's aunt is an old fragile woman, "hoe-broken palms" and "scrawny ribs." But she is also a very hard worker and loving person. Both these things remind me of my grandma. My grandma may be old and fragile but she is still a very hard working and loving person. My grandma is always up at first light doing household chores or working in her garden. Many times we have to force her to go inside, so she won't be exposed to the hot sun for to long. I can't count the number of times my grandma has made my bed, folded our clothes, washed our dishes, or done various other household chores for me and my family. I could never fully repay my grandma for all the wonderful things she has done. My grandma, like aunt Gwalanthi, is a very kind, hard working person.
Ama Ata Ado's "In the Cutting of a Drink" is about a person relating his story of looking for his lost sister in a big city called Mamprobi. The narrator, Mansa's brother, is talking to his uncles in the story. He is telling them about the things he experienced in the city while looking for Mansa. The narrator is from the country, so a lot of the city life is new or shocking to him. The narrator and Duayaw, the person helping him find his sister; go to a nightclub while looking for Mansa. This is a very new experience for the narrator. Some new things he experiences are dancing and watching women buy beer. But the most shocking thing is when he finds out his sister Mansa works there. "Young woman, is this the work you do?" he asked her. In the end Mansa's reply was, "any kind of work is work."
This story made me think of a couple of things, differences in cultures or places and a decline in moral values. When the narrator goes to the city he is in a totally new culture. Many of the things he sees done are shocking to him. "I sat with my mouth open and watched the daughter of a woman cut beer like a man." "I cannot describe how they danced." Going into a new culture would have to be a shocking experience for anyone. The comment "any for of work is work" made by Mansa makes me think about the decline in moral values. Now days many people seem to go by this saying. People seem to not care about what form of work they are doing as long as they make money. Some factors to consider when doing a job are, is what you are doing morally right or ethical, and is what you are doing legal or illegal. Would you want your husband or wife to go to work as a prostitute? Or would you want them to go to work as a female or male stripper? I would hope not in both cases, the first simply because it is illegal. The second because it is pornography and I think you should have enough respect for your spouse to not want them to do that kind of work. So the comment "any form of work is work" is not a way to go about finding a job.
"The Return" by Ngugi WA Thing's is about a man named Kamau who returns home after being in a detention camp for five years. He hopes to see his old village exactly the same. Instead he finds it now ruled by the British. The British have changed the village and its culture. Worst of all, Kama's wife Muthoni left with another man named Karanja. Muthoni did this because Karanja lied and told the village that Kamau had died. At the end of the story Kamau lets a small bundle, filled with things that reminded him of Muthoni, roll down a bank and float down the river. Then he talks about the relief he felt after this happened. "Why should she have waited for me? Why should all the changes have waited for my return?"
These comments make me think about change and how hard it can be to cope with change. It also made me be more thankful for some of the things I take for granted. When Kamau returned home he basically returned home to a completely new village. His family had aged, many people didn't recognize him, and his wife was gone. This was very hard for Kamau to cope with, "the old village had not even waited for him." Kamau felt resentful and angry. I know I would have the same resentful feelings as Kamau if I were put in the same situation. I would feel cheated if I came home one day only to find it completely changed. Many time I find myself taking my friends, family, home, or security for granted. Sometimes I don't realize how important these things are in my life. I know if they were taken away or completely changed, I would be devastated. I would not be able to get over it as fast as Kamau. After reading this story I am more thankful for the many things I take for granted.
All three of these readings bring out different responses from me. My grandma is the person I think about in the poem "Those Rainy Mornings." I am reminded of all the wonderful things she does for me and my family. In the story "In the Cutting of a Drink" I think about the decline in moral values these days. I also think about that it would be like to go into a whole new culture. After reading the story "The Return" I am more thankful for the things that I take for granted. The story also makes me think about change and how hard it can be to cope with change.