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The environment children grow up in is a major influence on their personality and how they interact with and are perceived by others, especially if the child has a disability. Deafness, hearing impairment, or hearing loss is a partial or total inability to hear leading the child in a world of its own with the parents in another. With this leads to the many negative effects a hearing parents have on their deaf child and how they could possible overcome it.
Once hearing parents find out their child is deaf or hard of hearing nine times out of ten they see about getting cochlear implants. As said by Shari Roan Los Angeles Times "About 40 percent of such children now receive a cochlear implant, up from about 25 percent five years ago." Many don't realize that just to get an implant you must go through extensive surgery, which could lead to serious side effects. As Tanya Irvin writes on "Cochlear Implant Surgery Side Effects" she states some serious side effects that many parents don't realize going into the surgery "Serious side effects include a disturbance of facial nerves on the side where the device was implanted. The procedure requires close contact with facial nerves, and if they are damaged during surgery a temporary facial paralysis may result." Many think as soon as the child gets the implant they are now considered hearing, this is a false statement. Having an implant will not make them just like hearing people, deaf will always be deaf. So even if the parent goes through with giving their child the implant it will cost about 40,000 to 50,000 dollars for just one ear. This does not include the massive about of speech therapy the child would have to go through for most of their life. But the child not only needs excerpt help but also help at home parents have to give it 110 percent or they will never ever see the results they are looking for. In theory the cochlear implant is not always the smartest choice due to the many negative possibilities, and hard work that comes along with it.
Also most hearing people are unaware or know little about deaf culture. For starters deaf culture is a set of learned behaviors of a group of people that share a language, vales, rules for behavior, and traditions. In the article "Learning About Deaf Culture and Community" the author states "Perhaps the most important aspect of Deaf culture is the language." So since 90 present of deaf children are from hearing parents they are not introduced into deaf culture until later in their life. The child will spend most of their life stuck in a hearing world until they go to school or grow up and decide to be around deaf people like them self's. . In deaf culture there are two differences between deaf people, big D and little d. Generally, the "small d" deaf do not associate with other members of the deaf community, strive to identify themselves with hearing people, and regard their hearing loss solely in medical terms. "Big D" Deaf people identify themselves as culturally deaf, and have a strong deaf identity. The big D deaf tend to have attended schools/programs for the deaf, while the small d tends to have been mainstreamed and/or never attended a school for the deaf. Because parents are not getting their child involved in deaf culture and also trying to "enhance" them, this is leading to the death og the Big D, aka deaf culture. Some say it will never die, but with all the new technology no one can be for sure.
A parent plays a strong, central role in the communication of their deaf child. About 90 percent of the deaf population has hearing parents, and 88 percent of the parents don't know sign language. "Studies revealed that the children actually understood less than what their mothers believed they did". (Mackay-Sorka, Trehub, & Thorpe, 1988) So people ask how to you communicate with your child, and most of the time the answer will be "I don't". This lack of communication at home could lead to frustration and inappropriate emotional behavior by the child. Because the parent can't communicate with their child they lead to other resources such like the cochlear implant hearing aids, and speech treatment to help teach them how to talk like a "normal" child. Parents tend to forget that Sign language is the number one language used by the deaf community, and if they took time they could learn it. Learning sign language would not only enhance the communication between them and their child but would get the both closer to deaf culture. Communication is sharing ideas, many people think it's just talking, but real communication happens when you understand other people, and they understand you. Failure to communicate is a very common barrier in any parent to child relationship. Expressing your ideas and concerns is difficult if you do not speak the language fluently enough to understand everyday slang, and have a speech impediment or are deaf. Dissolving any communication barrier is of primary importance. "They may gesture or point to objects, but this puts severe limitations on social interaction and pretend play" (Lederberg, Ryan, & Robbins, 1996). Using gestures and pointing are usually limited to the room or the immediate environment. This dampens the variety of directions in which a conversation can go. "Deaf children usually do not change the topic while interacting with a hearing peer" (Lederberg et al., 1996). This puts control of the relationship in the hearing child's hands, and this imposition on the child usually results in frustration or boredom. With all the choices of figuring out what is best for your child, you also have to remember that you need to think of the best way that you and your children can communicate together withier it be sign language or giving them a cochlear implant.
A negative relationship with siblings also plays a huge factor in the development of a deaf child, "In most cases, when the deaf child has an older hearing sibling, the relationship is negative" (Bat-Chava & Martion, 2002). This is due to lack of attention to the non-deaf child. Growing up in a house with a deaf child the parents feel as if they need more "special" attention, leading to a loss of attention to the hearing child. This could potentially bring out sibling rivalry in the house causing children to get attention, sometimes in the worst ways possible. "Some studies report that siblings of deaf children may be at risk for suffering from stress and face difficulty in adapting to styles of differing individuals"(Vadasy,Fewel,Meyer, & Schell,1984). Sometimes parents feel awkward about having a child with a hearing disability and deal with their grief by investing a lot of time with the deaf child in attempt to make it a positive experience. "The more anxiety parents feel, the more time they spend with the deaf child. This is common in mothers of hearing-impaired children, in that they experience higher stress levels and have a harder time adjusting emotionally". (Quittner, Jackson, & Glueckauf, 1990) They experience increased stress from their hearing children, who are more moody and demanding then those without deaf siblings. Social support is especially important in encountering anxiety and stress, but these mothers have very few people who are capable of providing support in their situation. Often they can only turn to health professionals such as doctors and audiologists. In most cases, when the deaf child has an older sibling, the relationship is negative. This happens because the older child has more difficulty with losing parental attention. This is already hard enough when the younger sibling is not deaf. However, when parents make an effort to de-emphasize the difference between deaf and hearing children, relationships are better.
There isn't a "right" choice for all children. Each child is different, and needs different things. Parents are also different, and have their own hopes for their children. Some families are able to do one thing. Some families are only able to do another. Parents are at the head of the family structure and serve a major function in their children's lives. They affect relationships between siblings indirectly. The more accepting they are about their deaf child's condition, the more accepting the siblings will be. These positive relationships will be beneficial to the child and his or her future. Communication will more likely not be so much of a barrier to the child, and this helps him or her academically and socially.