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Woman's condition in the world
This subject is about the importance of women in our society and the way they contribute to its development. In the past many traditions portrayed women as being less important than men and that is why they had many restrictions such as : little right to education, they were prohibited to vote or to detain political functions, and even they were denied the chance to have a job. The only thing they were supposed to do was the children rearing and house keeping.
There was no country in the world in which women's quality of life was equal to that of men according to the health status, education opportunities, employment, and political rights. And when they were employed, they were offered a job only in a restricted range of fields having a low pay and being treated with low respect. This situation was determined by sexual discrimination and harassment. They are also confronted with wage discrimination and with long hours of unpaid labor.
Although some countries allowed women to vote, some still had not done so. And there were many informal obstacles that impeached women participation in political life. Almost everywhere, there were a small number of women representing the government.
But regarding women as mothers, they play an important role because even if men considered this an easy task, it was no as easy as it seemed. A mother had to be aware of every movement of her child, she had to offer the child healthy food and finally to give the child a good education. The first years of life are very important and they are the basis of the future man. Children were very much bound to their mothers, and their fathers, because of the lack of time were most of the time only some strangers whom they feared. The authority was detained by the father who did not only punish the children but he also had violent reactions.
Nowadays things have changed radically. The Bill of Rights stipulates that all men are equal, and women are given other opportunities. They can attend school and even higher education, can vote and detain political functions, and they must have a workplace where men treat them with respect. More and more women are independent, and they place career as being one of their priorities. The role of a mother is still very important, but it is not their main occupation. It can be said that even the way they grow up their children has changed. If in the past the father was the “head” of the family, nowadays the roles are divided.
It is an interesting subject to debate because it includes differences of an old society, the traces this has left and the way things have developed.
1. Feminist views
1.1 Women, Human Beings
“Human beings are not by nature kings, or nobles, or courtiers, or rich. All are born naked and poor. All are subject to the miseries of life, to frustrations, to ills, to needs, to pains of every kind. Finally, all are condemned to death. That is what the human being really is.” Jean- Jacques Rousseau, Emile, Book IV.
Therefore a human being is either a man or a woman. There is only a distinction between “genders”. Starting from this idea it can be said that every person is constituted by certain traits, which characterize them as “human”, no matter what culture they belong to. These traits include the fact of mortality, the body needs for food and drink, shelter, mobility, the cognitive capacities, affiliation and concern for others etc. It also must be taken into consideration the premise that there is a common humanity that is recognized across the centuries and continents, and which aims to articulate a set of associated functions and abilities. The real difference that can be made consists on the forms of activity, of deeds and beings that constitute the human way of life and distinguish them from animals and plants.
There are some essential things for an entity to be categorized as a person:
autonomy, self-respect, sense of fulfillment and achievement. The autonomy of a person involves freedom of choice, of opinion and of any discrimination. Everyone should follow his own interior voice, interests according to their capacities.
The interaction with others, the way in which one is perceived and accepted into a group plays an important role. Every person needs to belong to a certain social environment and the relationships they experience influence their way of being.
Self-respect, is an essential requirement of personhood which involves the sense of dignity, consciousness of autonomy and worth. It also involves consciousness of one's capacities and rights, and more importantly, commitment to one's responsibilities. A self-respecting person has a sober assessment of his/her place in the context of life and the world.
The role as mother also develops a range of self-esteem because it gives a new sense to life. It makes a woman feel more responsible with her acts and it also provides her a different importance in society and makes her more mature in a way by becoming a “real woman” at last. Having a child can bring greater vitality, fun and humour, as providing her with a new insight into the world.
In the past centuries almost all women saw the world through the male eyes, they occupied subordinate and inferior positions and were conditioned to limit their own life goals and self-esteem. But nowadays things have changed a lot and women don't need a man to survive. They can manage very well, they are independent because they have a job which can provide them the chance to buy whatever they like and to live without a man's support. Work is a vital part of everyone's life, it intensifies confidence and self-esteem. It makes people, in general, feel complete.
The way women look is an extra concern and influences the way they feel. They want to be beautiful and that is why they keep diets, do sport, go to spas, use expensive cosmetics, appeal to surgery and are careful what they put on them.
Therefore self autonomy is guided by the principles of freedom and includes a series of civil liberties. Every person is free to make their own decisions and to center their deeds according to their necessities and free wills. An autonomous person lives in accordance with the dictates of reason, which is directly linked to morality. Autonomy is neutral, being placed between good and evil and the real challenge is to know what is the right way to follow, of course after passing some obstacles.
1.2 The eternal conflict
It is well known that God first created man, and only after that He gave him a wife in order to multiply and to have ancestors. Because the man was first, he is considered to be the head of the family. But this headship does not mean that woman has no rights or that she is a second class citizen. On the contrary, God told the husband to love his wife and to become a single soul together with her. This headship issue is an issue of order, not of who is better or more important.
Men and women are only different. They differ from the point of view of their physical appearance, ethics, behaviors, dispositions, needs etc. A man is not good or bad because he is a man. Similarly a woman is not good or bad simply because she is a woman. In other words all are subjected to mistakes.
The respect to which women are different from men is important, namely because women can give birth to children, and men can not do it. This is one case in which “natural capacities” are concerned. Therefore women, having a special feature of motherhood, have the right to get special facilities to help them perform their duties as mothers without affecting their rights and responsibilities elsewhere. To perform this parental duty men also must be present in order to offer help when it comes to the child's education. In ethical and political theories, the family is often viewed as an inappropriate place for showing one's superiority, but a place for love, altruism and shared interests. If children see that sex difference is the occasion for different treatment, they could be affected in their personal and moral development. They are likely to learn injustice, by absorbing the messages, and by observing that their parents don't treat each other with respect. There is a need for attention to be paid in order to avoid that the children take as a negative example the way in which their parents behave and repeat it when they grow up.
Empirical research in recent years has brought out clearly that women occupied lower positions than men in traditional economic and social arrangements. Thus there is a wide gap between men's and women's recorded and perceived economic participation. All the work women did such as rearing children, cleaning and maintaining the household, caring for the old and sick, and contributing in various ways to men's work, does not count as work, even if it is crucial for the survival.
A first context related to notions of legitimacy and correctness is that of the gender inequalities. In a family, between women and men, or girls and boys these inequalities should be accepted as “natural”, by lining out an interesting contrast among different members.
On the labor market, for example there should be rather a matter of position than of streakiness. Sometimes a man can be the manager, but a woman can occupy the same function too, in different contexts. To avoid the problem of conflict everyone must pursue the same objectives, as a result of which there will not be a disharmony of interests but a wish to collaborate in the best conditions.
2. Women's equality
2.1 Gender discrimination
The concept of “equality” has been at the centre of any feminist movement. It was long been obvious that women, as a class, have remained in a state of subjugation and inferiority. They can be considered as an auxiliary of men, most of their duties being orientated towards their husbands who are frequently mentioned as their lord and master. In the Muslim countries, for example, women are given different rights regarding marriage, divorce, civil rights, legal status, dress code, and education. The marriage is arranged by the family together with the future husband. The future bride does not marry in the most cases from love, her wedding being a business for the rest of the family, because the man has to buy her from his father. In a case of a divorce, the children remain with their fathers and there are cases in which women are forbidden to see or visit them. It is a cruelty, because between mothers and children is a strong relationship in which the father shouldn't interfere. They are not allowed to remain alone with a man if they are married, but men are allowed to have more than a wife.
The employment of women varies over fields on Islamic laws. Even when women have the right to work and are educated, women's job opportunities are in practice unequal to those of men. They have limited opportunities to work in the private sector because they are expected to put their role in family first, which causes men to be seen as more reliable in the long term. While many work outside home in responsible positions, the law continues to treat them as minors. Specific fields of work clearly point out that women and children below 16 are restricted. The presumption is that women are less able to protect themselves, or that men are better able to resist in hard conditions of work.
The status of women on testimony is disputed. Some jurists held that certain types of testimony by women will not be accepted. In other cases, the testimony of two women can equal that of one man. The reason for this disparity has been explained in various manners, including women's lack of intelligence, women's temperament and sphere of interest.
In the other moderate nations there is no legal restriction regarding the right of women to employment, equal wages and protection before the law. But even in these places women can face the same “treatment” from men. But to start surpassing this mentality, and to become men's equals at the workplace and politics, women have to go beyond the humble image that was assigned to them in the past. Both men and women should accept each other.
2.2 Gender discrimination in China and Mexico
Another example concerning inequality between men and women can be seen in countries such as China. The problems that women were confronted with were the same everywhere. The revolution helped to raise the status of women. The legislation like the Marriage Law of the 1950 did not only reveal the most extreme forms of female subordination and repression, such as prostitution, concubinage, selling of women and children, but it also gave women the opportunity to make their own marital decisions. Their life was no longer restricted to the home, and they joined the agricultural and industrial work forces. Education, which was denied to women in traditional China, has become more accessible. But the education system had first given priority to men, and illiterate schools had been mainly attended by female. Many companies refused to hire female graduates from universities because their parenting responsibilities may impede business. They were also permitted to enter in the area of politics. However, many of them had lower-paid and less challenging jobs, the leadership positions being dominated by men.
The Chinese women were told to be “free”, but they were discouraged when they expressed their opinions. Growing up in the shadow of the Chinese morality, they were becoming accustomed with a certain degree of inferiority. Many of them got used with the idea that they are not accepted on the labor market. This mentality leads them to set low standards of life.
The situation of women in Mexico is almost the same, but they are not forbidden to participate in different spheres of public life. However they suffer from inequality and injustice. Statistics on education and employment reflect that even women had the same rights as men to be actively involved in all fields of activity their actual participation is limited.
Regarding education, 15 % of the female population is illiterate and from the rest only 38% attended a High School. Because of this issue they are denied the opportunity to work as a qualified worker. If they managed to get a job they were paid less than man for doing the same thing. The little money they got, was for the family subsistence, and except for some privileged cases, when they had been responsible for the young children even if she had an outside job. There were cases when another woman, member of the family is employed as a domestic worker who did the house keeping.
Traditional women nowadays seem to accept the unjust social arrangement in which those women had lived before and take action in order to change this situation. Even if they accept the old cultural rules and respect them, they want to be independent, to work freely and to be accepted as equals to men from all points of view. Now there is no argument, no “principle of difference” for denying women the freedom to function in all fields of activity. The need to survive and the fact that men could no longer gain enough to support his family helped women to abolish the traditional division of work according to gender. Women are more educated, many of them graduated one or even two universities. There is no reasonable matter that could be invoked to justify that men are more capable than women.
The government also helps widows and single mothers and the fact that they have to grow up their children it is not an impeachment to get a good paid working place. Many of them can leave their children with their close relatives who look after them without expecting any payment. Employment makes women to improve their status within the family and enables them to have a better treatment from the part of men.
2.3 Migrant women
Many women from all over the world needed to move from their home countries as part of global division of labor which was underpinned by colonial exploitation. Some came as migrants in their own right, while others came as the daughters, wives and mothers of migrant men. All of them met the institutionalized racism of the state in which they had gone. They occupied some specific locations in time and space such as America, England, Italy, Germany coming from Asia and Africa. For many of women coming to these places meant their first encounter with paid work outside home, in domains such as manufacturing or in the state sector, where they were low paid. Even if they expected to have a better life, they encountered a lot of difficulties, serving an economy designed for the metropolitan centers. It was very clear that minority family workers find themselves at the periphery and part-time jobs were never for them.
The life of migrant families is in many ways distinct from the life of the others. Each year migrant families travel to remote parts of the country seeking employment on the labor market to work under bad and hazardous conditions. For example those who arrived in United States were born outside it and many had and continued to have difficulties speaking English. Due to the extreme economic conditions of migrant life, children must often take a job and family responsibilities at a young age, sometimes to the detriment of school attendance. The cost of migrating is high and is common for migrants to arrive at a new destination with little or no money or food. Living conditions are cramped such as a camp housing units consisted of one small room for each family that serves for cooking, eating and sleeping.
Regarding their health even minorities have the same heath problems like the others, they use fewer health services and suffer more from diseases, disabilities and an early death.
Nowadays there are organizations such as MRI whose mission is to advocate for the respect, protection and fulfillment of a full range of human rights of migrants around the world and to foster unity and the inclusion of migrants in all fields.
2.4 Black women
Black history is very wide and during the time it has served whites as an antidote for racism indoctrination. Blacks and whites are two separate cultures, with separate traditions and diametrically opposed past experiences. Black women have been denied important implications in the history because they were profoundly affected by having to see the world through male eyes, as the majority of women did in the past, including the white women, too. They were also conditioned to limit their own life goals, being doubly victimized by scholarly neglecting and racist conceptions. Belonging to two groups which have traditionally been treated as inferiors - blacks and women- they have been almost invisible. They have always been more conscious of race oppression and sex discrimination, being subjected to all the restrictions against Blacks and against women. In no area of life they haven't ever been permitted to attain higher status than white females.
Additionally, because of the slavery system they were sexually exploited by white men through rape or enforced sexual services. These sexual abuses, which were characteristic to the colonizers on the conquered groups, functioned actually to fasten the badge of inferiority of the slavery societies of black people. The black men were deprived of the power and right to protect their women from white men. So, the poor black women had no support, they could not rely for protection in any part.
Black women had an ambiguous role in relation to white society. They were allowed to serve white families by nursing and raising white children, cleaning their houses and attending sick people. Their wages were the lowest of all including white women. Black women were also deprived of the ballot until 1920 even if poor black men could vote.
But the status of black women can be seen from two different viewpoints: as members of a larger society and within their own group. When they are taken into consideration among Blacks, they had higher status within their group than white women in their society. This paradox is the direct result of white society to black one, the result of the fact that the lowest jobs in white society are reserved for black women. For black females this means that they were trained since childhood to become workers in order to survive. They knew that they had to work even they were married or single. Work to them, unlike to white women is not a liberating goal, but rather an imposed necessity for survival. More than that, they can often find a job while black men cannot do that. Black women's aim throughout history has been for the survival of her family and of her race. Until the past decade, the access to professional jobs was closed on black women due to discrimination, they were trained only for lower position jobs or for a life of domestic work. Thus they were given smaller chances to complete their studies, than black men, who even with a college degree could hardly find a good working place because of the race discrimination.
Black women showed the pride and the strength of people who had endured great oppression. This gave them a sense of their function in the world and a strong confidence in their values. Their liberation has depended on the liberation of the race and the improvement of the life of the black community.
This slavery pattern was carried out a long time and only recently was abolished and Blacks were given equal rights to those of whites. But even nowadays they seem to bear the old trace of their ancestors and not everyone regards this society as one with the same opportunities. There still are some obstacles they have to surpass such as the unkindness of many white people and the difficulty to be accepted as normal.
In any case it is necessary to recognize that there is a female aspect to all histories, that women were there and that their contributions were different from those of men, regardless of the color of their skin.
2.4.1 The system of slavery
Slavery resisted in practice from its inception in the United States in the early 1600s to its end, in the middle of 1800s. This formed a separate and distinct culture which bound both master and slave in a complex and interdependent relationship. The slavery system was above all a labour system, designed to extract the profit of unwilling and dependent subjects. The essence of it was that the slave was legally a piece of property to be bought and sold at the master's will. He had no legal rights, could not testify in his own behalf nor bear witness against a white person. As a result to this feature, a slave was subjected to the will of his master in all circumstances and his treatment depended on the personality and economic conditions of him. Most of them lived, not on large plantation, but in small isolated agricultural units or in small farms, where they were in close daily contact with their owners. However they lived under the worst conditions, having little clothing and one pair of shoes that had to last them a very long period, depending on the master's will. They slept in a single room on a bad made from straw and old rags.
They ate two meals a day, being provided no table; each took their own plate or a tin pan and an iron spoon and held it in the hand or on the lap. As a general rule, no lights, no firewood, no towels, no soap, no furniture were provided to them.
Source material about black women as slaves did not reveal much about their lives and feelings. In general, the life of black women under slavery was in every respect more difficult and restricted than that of the men. Their work and duties were the same as that of the men, such as work on the plantation, while childbearing and childrearing fell upon them as an added burden. Their affection for their children was used as means of tying them to their masters, children being always held as hostages in case of the mother's attempted escape. The chances to escape for female slaves were fewer than those for males.
There were cases in which the severe system made them to rebel and to run away, but they were caught every time, or some of them died while trying to escape. Those who survived were punished very cruelly and imposed a more severe system of terror which could keep resistance from breaking into large-scale rebellion. Thus the harsh but tolerable system was supplemented by a terroristic system of cruelty against those slaves who dared any sign of insubordination. Most runaway slaves returned voluntary, usually driven by hunger, the absence of shelter, the vast distances to be covered, their ignorance of geography, illiteracy and general lack of knowledge. The sale of those slaves was also a common mean of punishment and discipline. Slave women took part in all aspects of resistance, from rebellion to sabotage. Many of them lived with the hope that they would be free, because they were promised that if they did their job well, they would liberate at least their children.
2.4.2 Black slave families
Family life was almost inexistent and blacks got married at early ages, but always with the consent of their master and mistress. Even if a black woman was pregnant she had to do the same work regardless of how she felt about it. That is why babies were not born healthy and because of the harsh conditions of life many of them died of in the first weeks of life. Those who survived were sold, because masters did not want the time of the mother be taken up by attendance upon her children. As a favor she was permitted to go to see them once a year. Parents were never consulted, having little control over their own child. Every natural and social felling was violated with indifference. Some of them were kept as a possible working force for the time when they would grow up. When they were able to work, they had to accomplish any kind of duty, no matter how difficult it might be for the poor child. There are examples when they were kept in cold entries to work for many hours, in no good conditions. They had to finish the work without a lamp in the evening, they had no fire in the cold seasons. The tasks were often too hard for them and yet they were expected to work well with their cold fingers and standing up as if they were sitting in a comfortable place. They also had to take care of the white babies, even if they themselves were just kids.
It frequently happened that relatives, among slaves were separated for weeks or months, by the husband or brother being taken by the master on journey, to attend him and his horses. When they returned, the white husband could see his wife as soon as he arrived, but the black husband had to wait until the mistress gave his wife permission to go to him. The black women could be taken with the master in their journey too and many of them pretended that they were ill, in order to avoid being sold away from her husband and children. If it happened that the slaves got sick, they did not receive medical care.
Another way in which the feeling of the salves not taken into consideration and were often wounded, was by changing their names. If at the time they were brought into a family, there was another slave having the same name or if the owner did not like the name of the new comer they received another name. Many salves were grieving at having the name of their children thus changed. There had no freedom at all, because they were continuously watched. The system of espionage was the most worrying and intolerable and if they did not obey, they were whipped.
An old story shows that there was a black woman who was an exemplary worker who was both feared and respected by their masters, and who by her courage imposed some restrictions upon them. She was also the smartest black woman in that particular region and whatever she did could not be done better. She could do anything. She cooked, washed, ironed, spun, nursed and labored in the field. These skills gave her a sort of independence.
Other indulgent masters protected their slaves, especially women by allowing them to rest three of four weeks before and after they got birth. They were often not punished if they did not finish the task assigned to them. Then they could take the child with them, being helped by a little girl or boy who took care of the child while the mother was working. Where there was no such support, the baby was let under a tree or by the side of a fence, and the mother returned at intervals to nurse him.
2.4.3 The education of the Black communities
Regarding education in the Blacks' long struggle for survival, it was always a foremost goal, both as a tool for advancement an acceptance and as a means of improving life in the black community. There were Missionary groups which were engaged in effort of educating slave children. In some regions, such as the South America, slave rebellions led to a severe legislation which forbade the education of slaves. There were also some white women who continued to teach slaves to read and write. If they were caught they went to jail, but their will to help other people made this thing not so important.
Separate schools for boys and girls, which were very common among white people, were a luxury for the black communities and only few of them could afford to go there. The only separate schools for both white and black girls before the Civil War provided instruction in sewing, knitting and the household skills.
Despite the poverty of Blacks and the severe discriminatory restrictions which dominated their lives, they managed in the post Civil War period to send their children to school. But many of them had to do sacrifices and to endure many sufferings for the sake of sending them to schools. The reality is reflected in the way that black families raise their children as to accept work or career as a natural part of their lives. This could help black women to be better prepared for the demand of a professional career just like the majority of white women. Obviously the slow promotion of black women in a profession was due to race discrimination, both in educational preparation and access to institutions of higher education.
When they were permitted to attend schools their performances were of a great value. It is not surprising that blacks, especially women's first achievement came to prominence in the cultural fields. The black female literary tradition started with the talented Phillis Wheatley. Almost a hundred years later appeared some very talented novelists such as Jessie Fauset, Zora Neale Hurston etc. belonging to the Renaissance period.
Theatrical and musical careers were, like other professions, restricted by race barriers. Talented black actresses were confined to play only servant roles. Twentieth-century singers were imposed some restrictions because of their race and great number of them had to leave America for Europe, to develop their talents and careers. Among these was Marian Anderson, who acclaimed in Europe as one of the greatest singers in the world.
In no other cultural field has the black contribution been more influential than in music (spiritual, blues, jazz) and women played an integral part in this development. In the artistic and cultural fields, as in education and some professions, the long repressed black women has bought an explosion of talent and are today a dynamic force in the creation of a uniquely expressive black culture.
2.5 About womanhood
Black women are human beings too and they are not guilty because they were born black. They had to suffer the insults of possessing the most depreciative elements of humanity: being black and being women. They are just as strong and weak as any other women with the same level of education, training and environment. Their liberation depended on that of the race and on the improvement of the black community. There was a great debate about colored men getting their rights, but not a word about colored women and if colored men would get their rights and the women would not, then the men would be over the women again. It was at this point that they needed total freedom. Black women must possess their soul and body and to be respected as part of their community, not to be ignored any more.
Their main concern is with their families and their children, but their history has given them a strong sense of their own worth. Black women have spoken with dignity, pride and they strongly believed they could change the vision concerning their society. It was a very hard struggle against the white people to convince them that colored women had the same moral standards, religious beliefs and ambitions as white have. There is no doubt that women of both races played an important role in the promotion of interracial contact and organization.
Not so long time ago colored women were unsocialized, unclassed and unrecognized, they were simply women whose character and personality excited no interest. There was no public opinion to which they could appeal; no protection against the attacks upon their characters and no justice to guarantee their safety against man's inhumanity to woman. Nowadays they have become sufficiently important to be studied apart from the general race problem and have been recognized as an integral part of the general womanhood of American civilization and all over the world. This is a result of a real progress.
In considering the social advancement of these women, it is important to keep in mind the point, from which progress began, and the fact that black women were mainly self-taught in all those precious things that made them surpass the difficult moments and the fact of being discriminated. They gradually become conscious of the fact that progress meant more than culture, education and contact. It is referred to the way in which people accept them or not as a distinct community and do not take into account the color of their skin. It is important to see the person as an integral human being and more important, to see its qualities.
3.1 Women as mothers
The experience of motherhood is very complex. It does not mean a new experience of looking after and caring for a child. It is rather a new identity, which is necessary for a female to be regarded as a “normal” woman. Another reason why some women may see their lives as more meaningful and worthwhile once they have a child is the belief that children give purpose and stability to themselves and to their marriages. The birth of a child also provides a potential source of satisfaction: the feeling that one has a reason for being.
In time this role as mother was differently perceived way by women. Depending also on the education they got and on the medium they grew up in, women accepted or not this “job” of being mother. Traditional mothers were those who lived with the belief that they should care for children, do domestic services, listen to their husband because he was the person who earned money and finally having a limited life.
The fact that infants are usually raised by women not only creates in girls the desire to have children, but also leads them to be better prepared and willing to care for children than men. Boys are also attached to their mothers, but when they grow up tend to follow father's example. And if his father didn't share childcare he will do the same thing. However adult's socialization with their children is very important for the development of their child's personality.
During the nineteenth century the feminist movement was mainly concerned with trying to improve the position of women. Taking into account the idea of a separation of spheres of activity for women and men, the feminists of that era felt a need for changes concerning the way the were regarded. They wanted to take part in the public life, they demanded equal opportunities and rights for women with respect to education, employment and they wanted to vote.
The importance of motherhood, women's domestic role and that they have special talents such as sympathy, caring, tenderness was also acknowledged.
The turn of the century brought an important change in social attitudes towards women's role as mothers. Prior to the twentieth century it was women's role as a wife than as a mother which was emphasized. Since the beginning of the twentieth century, however, there had been an increasing emphasis on the mother. Women were regarded as “Saviours of the Race”, engaged in the important task of giving birth to the next generation on whom society's future hopes rested. What was really different after the turn of the century was the increasing emphasis on the welfare of the mothers, on the problems they faced, rather than on the contribution they could make to public life by virtue of their special “domestic” qualities. With the help of campaigns family allowance and better health care for women and their children were introduced, including safer childbirth.
3.2 Mothers and their children
The news that a woman is pregnant drives the next parents to a sort of exaltation, happiness and fear at the same time. From that moment on their lives are likely to chance radically. They face a new responsibility but this time a new soul that is going to appear as a “fruit” of their relationship.
In our century parents start to prepare themselves by reading books, arranging the child's room and finally buying clothes. Due to the advanced technology they can find out the sex of their baby before he or she get born.
Women usually prefer to have girls and men, boys. Both of them agree that whatever the child will be, they want him/her to born healthy and to be happy.
The relationship that children have with their parents is important in the construction of themselves as woman and respectively as a man. But between mothers and babies there is a special connection even from the very beginning, from the moment the heart of the child starts to beat inside her. That is why it is told that babies can hear and feel their mothers and can react at what they are being told. It is commonly assumed that the identities of mother and their children are in many ways inter-related.
In the case of girls, they can follow and imitate some of the behaviors, attitudes, habits of mind etc. of their mothers. In the same way a woman may see in her daughter an extension of herself. This is one of the reasons that she wants a projection of herself in her girl. Many little girls practice for example sports that they do not like, but their mother would have like to do in their youth. There is also the reverse, when they are free to choose whatever they love to practice.
In addition, some mothers could be envious of their daughters' apparent freedoms, or blame them for not being dutiful daughters and a reasonable explanation could be that they have resentments concerning their own life. Informed by theories which state that daughters model themselves on their mothers in a way that sons do not, a mother may feel that her daughter has turned out to be a reflection of her. Obviously this can be a source of pleasure , but it can also lead to mothers feeling guilty if they perceive their daughters as unhappy, odd or having a” deviant” behavior. Sometimes daughters may blame their mothers for not being the mothers they wanted and mothers may blame daughters for not giving them what they expected. In this case it seems that they are confronted with the “generation gap”. Many good mother-daughter relationships exist despite these pressures.
Concerning boys things are a little bit different. They seem to be attached to their mothers but until they get to an early age. After that they are interested more in men's problems which can be clarified better by their fathers, who this time play a more important role. He must be an example for his own son. As he grows older he will reject the attachment to her family and parents' influence over him, in order that he might be accepted into “a man's world”. It is primarily to gain the acceptance and approval of other men, due to the fact that a son may become a “rebel” and he may disobey their parents even if they want the best for him. The son is said to cope with feelings of hostility because of the absence of his father. Boys are likely to experience more harmless things, such as smoking, taking drugs, drinking than girls. This is not a general case, but it seems that the bad entourage has a bad influence over them.
In both cases, a child learns how to behave through the experience of being treated differently by parents and other adults. Certain types of behavior are encouraged and others are discouraged in girls but not in boys and vice versa, in accordance with what is and is not considered appropriate for one's gender. Children may also be influenced in their ideas about gender by observing other people and modeling their behavior on them. Once they become aware they are a girl or a boy, around the age of two to three, they seek out opportunities to behave in ways which they see as being “female” or “male”. According to cognitive developmental theory, this is because at this age the child's understanding of what it means to be a girl or a boy is very restricted. One is a girl because one plays with dolls. When it comes to girls parents are concerned with helping them to develop skills such as sewing, cooking, cleaning the house in order to help their mothers. One is a boy because one wears trousers and not a dress. Boys are learned how to beat a nail, to fix on things that are broken and other skills that a future men need to know. As children develop cognitively they will be increasingly capable of understanding that he or she remains a girl or a boy.
3.2.1A contradictory experience
The assumption that women have a duty to take care of their children and the expectation that they will find motherhood naturally rewarding make it difficult for them to express feelings of dissatisfaction and disappointment, anger and frustration. As studies indicate, motherhood appears to have negative associations for many women. Most of them feel depressed, but these feelings are the result of hormonal changes following the birth. Alternatively, a woman becoming depressed after childbirth has been interpreted as evidence of unresolved conflicts stemming from her early relationship with her own mother. Instead of blaming women's discontent with motherhood, feminist perspectives stress that the way they have to care for the children makes them feel unhappy. For these women the endless stream of tasks such as bathing, dressing, feeding, putting their children to bed at night, tidying up after them, responding to their demands for attention were an exhausting and frustrating experience. One of the reasons these women perceive all these tasks as an irritating experience is because of the nature of the work itself. Looking after the children, especially during infancy, is a tiring and demanding job, but also a repetitive one. Several times a day the same activities have to be carried out.
For females who do not go to work the rewards and pleasures of caring for children will depend on the effects on their identity and their relationships of being isolated and being denied the social recognition for the work they do at home.
There are also other types of women who do all this work as a labor of love for their family. They see it as a duty, for which they do not expect to receive neither wages nor a great deal of thanks. Women who are in the position of being able to limit those things which make childcare seem exhausting and unrewarding are more likely to give them pleasure.
On the other hand, having the help and support of a partner, family and friends, or having enough money to afford to pay someone to look after one's child, can help mothers to see a significant difference to how burdensome the responsibility and work of childcare seems. Similarly, having a paid job may prevent the feeling of being isolated at home with babies.
Analysing motherhood in this way reveals the fact that women can like motherhood but not their children at all or, alternatively, can like their children but not the work involved in looking after them. It also helps to explain why for many women motherhood is a conflicting and contradictory experience of love and frustration.
3.3. Working mothers
Women have always worked, either on the plantations, as slaves or at home, doing domestic works. For African-American women, or for those black in general, who were in fact slaves, life was very different. They worked alongside male slaves in the fields and households of their masters and were responsible for domestic chores in their homes, too.
Industrialization has marked an important watershed in the history of women's work including both the tasks inside the house and those on the labor market. The production of goods has lead to a better economy and the revolution on the market system promote the need of more work force. Thus women were needed there in different fields of activity. The emergence of factories had dramatic consequences for women's productive role. Products once produced by women increasingly were available at shops. This economy transformed the nature of women participation, from that of producer to that of consumer. While industrialization thus altered their work within homes, it also opened new opportunities and occupations. The need of factories for workers fostered the employment of women and sometimes even children. Generally, throughout the nineteen century women worked in jobs with other women rather than with men, such as sewing trades, textile manufacturing, laundry work and retail sales. The increasing access of women to secondary and higher education facilitated their entry into teaching, nursing and clerical work. They were underrepresented in other set of jobs such as math and computer sciences, lowers and judges, and protective services.
The highest status female jobs usually went to white women, while immigrant women found employment in the factory sector. Until World War I most black women were able to find job only as domestic servants, laundry and agricultural workers.
In the past decades things have changed radically. Women's work has meant participation in the paid labor force but they are still separated by men by dimensions of race, class, ethnicity, age, marital status, education and culture. The reality is that almost every working woman will become mother. Over 70% of women with young children work on paid labor.
The fact is that, every mother is a working mom. But, for mothers who work outside the home, juggling career and family brings special challenges and concerns.
After getting married, contemporary wives cook, clean, shop, manage domestic routines and go to work, too. If they are mothers things are changing, because women have a new responsibility. The majority of them spend the first months or the first two years staying home with their children. It depends on the country. Almost all countries give them a sum of money to raise their babies. After this period children either remain home with a nurse, grandparents, friends, either they go to a kindergarten, where they do not only socialize with other children of the same age, but also learn many useful things. In this way mothers can have a job, and after that they take children home.
Just as wives continue to do the most of the household, they also continue to do most of the parenting. Sometimes husbands help them, their primary activity being playing with children. Mothers are more likely engaged in diapering, bathing and feeding. At the same time, husbands are able to maintain full involvement in their jobs, because their wives assume the responsibility for child care.
Although women today have fewer children and have them later than they did in the past, childrearing remains a central activity in their lives. It is also a “field of activity” where women express power, creativity and it is a source of satisfaction. Even career women, who often plan to give birth later, see children as a personal and emotional fulfillment.
3.4 Changing attitudes towards marriage
A domestic ideology defined the traditional marriage as being based on the concept of the male breadwinner and the female housewife. It was suggested that the man provided the material support and the woman took care of their children and maintained the household staffs.
Innovations in contraceptive technology along with the legalization of abortion, which has occurred in almost all European countries, have had a profound impact on fertility, particularly changing the concept of marriage. Efficient contraception, from the 1960s, meant women could plan with confidence when they would like to become pregnant. These changes coincided with a rapid growth in paid employment among women and childbearing could for some women be an impediment for their careers. Careers have become increasingly important for them.
The rise of the married women in paid work is one of the most notable changes of the “concept” of family since the 1950s. In Europe, for example, 30% of married women worked in 1951; by 1991, 62% of married women with children had a full or part-time job. This thing revealed that women as much as men see their self-esteem bound up with their working place. Women who are mothers placed as much importance in their job as concerning their children. The economic issue played a crucial role as regards the way in which women viewed themselves and the new road they decided to follow reflected all the changes of a marriage.
From the 1970s onwards there may be seen a decline in marriage rates taking place in all European countries and not only. If in the past both women and men married at an early age and had children, nowadays the age the young people decide to unify their destinies depends on the career, financial status and they also decide not to have children as soon as they get married. What has changed is that marriage no longer marks a distinct break in life-style or household forms, as in the past; it is not a number one priority. The increased individualism has put since 1960s a greater emphasis on individual and from this time on has resulted weaker social ties and partnership, being not based as in the past on the power of marriage. As a result there has been a growth of alternative life-styles including the fact that many couples move together without being married. The fall of the importance of marriage has marked the break of social and traditional conventions and living together outside marriage is described by traditional people and also by church as “living in sin”. The church considered that two men to be considered a couple must be unified in front of God, too. This spiritual union is necessary for all those who do not want to live in sin.
Cohabitation started to increase in the 1970 in northern and western European countries. Therefore, large proportions of couples cohabit before getting married and in Sweden, for example often choose not to marry at all. These new developments do not show clearly the future implications of the future family and household structures are not clear. There is a variation in cohabitation, in some cases the couple wants to be free of charges and without being married they are free to leave their partner without any obligation. But there are cases in which they are obliged to marry because they will become parents. This is a happy case, of course, because lacking any kind of responsibility the man can leave the house and abandon even his unborn son. Thus many women have to raise their children by herselves without any support.
Surveys have shown that those who cohabit were raised by divorced parents or by only one parent and they do not understand the importance of being married legitimately.
In general cohabiting relationships tend not be permanent or lead to marriage after two or there years of cohabitation. Some couples may well see it as a strategy to avoid the risk of divorce, especially if they have previous experience of divorce, either themselves or their parents. However the partnerships are likely to become informal and perhaps begin without the assumption that they will last a lifetime. This phenomenon happens especially since the new relationships are more concerned with companionship rather than based on the need for economic survival.
Nowadays couples have high expectations from the part of their partners in contrast with the past when women had rarely a choice but to stay in unsatisfactory relationships. Nowadays more women are economically independent so that they can decide to remain or to leave the relationship. Another difference that can be observed is that people are more educated then ever before and women as well as men expect to take a more active role both at work and at home. They want that their partners support, help and understand their way of living.
Some populations such as Muslims are likely to remain exceptions to these trends and their household structures continue to be traditional and the rate even of divorce is low.
3.5 Single mothers
Low marriage rates and also the divorce raise have lead to a significant proportion of single mothers. Single mothers can also result from cohabitating couples. This, more than other clues illustrates the extent of changes that have conquered this world. Other times children were a joy for a family and more than that they unified the traditional cell of what can be called “family”. Marriage is no longer the necessary precursor for bearing children and that is why the risk of separation is higher. The rise in extramarital births began in the 1970s: for the countries of European Union for example, from around 5 % of all births to 16% in 1988. Scandinavian countries have the highest rates, there 52% of all births were extramarital in 1990. In the UK and France, proportions are approaching one-third of all births. A recent study showed that Asian women were much less likely to cohabit than white women, that is why births outside marriage are not very common in that part of the world.
There are many reasons because a couple decides to separate, but this break has negative consequences over the children. Women are also very affected by the fact that they have to raise their children without the father support. Single parent-families are at a higher risk of poverty than couple families and even the health of the mother is weaker.
Single parenting is strongly associated with a number of negative social, behavioral and emotional outcomes for children. In the case of boys they feel the need to speak with someone of their sex and to have a model to follow. For girls the lack of a father is reflected on the lack of having protection as other children do. Both boys and girls want that their father play with them, especially boys for whom fathers can represent a good friend more than an authority, as mothers represent for girls. They can receive counsels concerning their own body and the changes that interfere at the age of adolescence. Because of this lack of information many young boys enter bad entourages who can have a destroying influence over them. They can begin to smoke, to steal, to speak weird or even to take drugs. Girl can also have the same “skills”.
Mothers do their best and try to educate their children as well as they can, but they can not supply the father role. Shocking surveys showed that those living with single parent were about three times more likely to kill themselves or to end up in a hospital. The reasons for this decision could be the greater childhood unhappiness and the eventual rejection from the part of their friends.
As regards the financial part, this is a burden for the single mothers. They do not only carry the responsibility of raising children without the help of a companion, but also to offer him a decent life. For this, they need money and have to sacrifice their future plans to give the children the things they need.
There are also happy situations in which mothers can afford to give children all they want without any help. But in this case it is another problem: the time they spend working and let their children with a nurse or if they are bigger, even alone. In both cases the lack of another person is visible and has negative effects not only over the children, but also over women who need at their turn emotional support. At this stage there is a big disadvantage represented by the fact women do not have with whom to share all the funny things that a child could do, the comments he/she makes and does, they do not have a picture of what is usually called “family”.
Some fathers do pay alimony and visit their children as much as they can. This type of men loves them, but they are not in good terms with the children mothers. Thus even though they do not live in the same house with their offspring, they try to be part of their life in order to guide them along their life.
Some studies have shown that from the increase of the single-parent families and the rising employment of women to the increasing divorce rates, are evidence for the destruction of what can be called a united family. While families of the past were linked by strong economical bonds, the ties that bind contemporary families are made of a weak emotional twine. Women offer love, devotion and attachment to their husbands and children by expecting to receive emotional support and security. Many husbands turn to their wives as their only confident, the person to whom they disclose their personal feelings and concerns. At the same time women sustain marital conversations by listening more than by questioning. Perhaps that is why men say that they are understood many times by their wives. In contrast, women have more than one confident such as women friends and close relative to whom they ask for emotional support. However the family is still the predominant lifeline for most women.
4.The health issue
4.1Heath care- beauty
Even since the feminist movement in the early 1970s, women have spent more money than ever before on products and treatment designed to make them beautiful. The importance of beauty has apparently increased the time women were reaching for personal freedom and economic rights undreamed by their grandmothers. The emphasis on this subject may be a way to feel better by looking better. Attractiveness is a prerequisite for femininity but not for masculinity. The word “beauty” belongs to women, while referring to beautiful men, the word “handsome” it is used. As Ambrose Bierce wrote “To men a man is but a mind. Who cares what face he carries or what he wears? But women's body is the woman”. Men are told to be instrumental and women ornamental.
Ideas of what is beautiful vary across cultures and change over the time. Beauty cannot be quantified or objectively measured, because it is the result of the judgment of others. The concept is difficult to define and sometimes lead to contradictory opinions. It is an abstract thing linked by physical qualities rather than by moral content. The perceptions and the cognition influence the degree of attractiveness of a person. The value of beauty depends on the body and the special features one may have. The eyes, hair, body etc. are elements of extreme importance in determining the degree of beauty.
Although people have been decorating their body since prehistoric times, the Chinese may have been the first to develop the concept that the female body must be changed from its natural state. The practice of foot binding illustrates that women tried to conform to beauty ideals.
In the sixteenth century, European women bound themselves into corsets of whalebone and hardened canvas. A piece of metal or wood ran down the front to fix on the breasts and abdomen. These corsets made difficult the breath and activities as sitting are nearly impossible. The Queen Catherine of France introduced waist binding consisting of iron bands that minimized the size of the waist to the ideal measurement of thirteen inches. Tight corsets were also in vogue in the mid-nineteenth century and women had pulmonary diseases and attack the internal organs. Fainting as well as abortion were the result of wearing such tightly clothing.
In the seventeenth century, the waist was still laced and the breasts were once again stylish, the fashion being designed to enhance them. Ample breasts, hips and buttocks become the beauty ideal of a perfect woman. A white pallor was also popular at that time while dark skin was not so appreciated.
In the twentieth century the ideal of women was the thin body, small breasts and bobbed hair. Women kept a lot of diets in order to become thin and to appear taller. Even pregnant women were on diets prescribed by doctors. Those who were older followed hormone replacement therapy, which was rumored to prevent wrinkles and keep their body young.
The 1980's beauty ideal remained the slim body, but more muscular toned and physically fit body. In recent decades it has been perceived as beautiful those women with traits as erotic sophistication with naive innocence, delicate grace with muscular athletic, thin body with large breasts. Small breasts aroused dissatisfaction and many women willing to look better resorted to surgical operation to enlarge them, without taking into account the risk they are exposed to. Silicone implants have resulted into breast cancer and the formation of thick tissue. Other things considered modern were tattoos and nose piercing as well as high-heeled shoes, tight jeans and short skirts. Tattooing and piercing have lead to infections. Women have also been poisoned by toxic chemicals in cosmetics and by diet pills. Diets also lead to emotional changes, irritability and even reduced cognitive capacity.
There are also beauty-related disorders such as anorexia and bulimia. The desire to be skin also determined the great number of those who started to smoke because they wanted to curb their appetites.
Being beautiful requires a lot of money. Starting with expensive cosmetics, clothing with designer label and finishing with plastic surgery make a woman seem more beautiful and “fashionable”. Health spas are very common among the rich. Beauty rituals take a lot of time, too. Women need time in order to pluck their eyebrows, shave legs, manicure nails, apply makeup and arrange their hair. Their clothing is more complicated than men's and many more accessories are used. Although these are artificial ploys, many women consider that only by making use of them will they become beautiful.
Men's grooming rituals are fewer, take less time and do not need to be hidden. Scenes of men shaving have often been seen on television, but not those in which women appear arranging themselves, in order to keep the mystery of their beauty. Even sport exercises are made with a different purpose. If men want to increase body mass, women want to lose weight and to change the shape of their body.
The pursuit of the perfect female body includes not only satisfaction but also unhappiness, confusion and insecurity. Women often believe that if they look perfect their lives will be perfect as well. Obsessive concern about body shape and weight has become a common feeling among women of all ages. Those who do not succeed the ideal of thinness develop bizarre eating habits and are obsessed that they are fat. The fear of being rejected by the society, the fact that they can hardly find a partner if they do not look well make women more and more obsessed by their appearance.
It is obvious that women's attractiveness is judged more harshly than men's. The emphasis on beauty has psychological consequences for women and it is important for them to take a stand against continued enslavement to the elusive beauty ideal. They have to be able to live freely and to decide the extent to which they are willing to go for being attractive. But more important is to accept themselves as they are.
Beauty is an ideal, such as truth and goodness, being hard to achieve it, that is why every person is beautiful in their own way.
4.2How older women change
All women are subjected to changes over their lives, but when they get older these changes appear sometimes insurmountable. One such change involves the role of motherhood. As children grow up and move from their parents' house to be on their own, the mothers feel that they lose the special role they had until then and that they remain with a great deal of spare time. Being accustomed with their children they do not realize that they are adults and have to build their own lives, to marry and to have children in their turns. They are so attached to them and it is hard to let them go.
During this period many older women face the loss of their husband either through divorce or death. Both of them let women without any emotional support and without their life-time partner. It is very hard to be left alone particularly at the age of retirement when children are gone, the time for having a job is finished and the only close soul remains the husband. Men suffer after the loss of their wife, but widowhood for women brings negative effects. In contrast to older men, women turn to relatives and organizations in order to help them emotionally. Older men have a greater opportunity to remarriage, so their sufferings might be greater but of short duration than those women who face a future with no renewal.
Older women who are alone are exposed to isolation. The physical and biological changes make them less valued and therefore less acceptable by the society. All these processes have implications for the mental health of aging women such as physical ailments that limit their activities. They can also lose their hearing, diminish their sight and mobility.
Beside all these changes older women have another burden to pass over; the low income. The economic change makes some women try to get a new job, but because of their age they are not accepted on the labor field. Another impeding change that strongly influences the state of mind of older women is death. Most of them succeed in accepting it as something natural, but others avoid this subject.
Older women have to face these changes as they age. Some of them may endure these transformations with grace and serenity. For others these events may cause emotional dysfunctions such as stress, depression, suicide, drug abuse or alcoholism.
Stress is the result of many factors but in the case of older people is revealed by a self-evaluation. An unsatisfying past and present life can lead to all sorts of stress related diseases. Cardiovascular disorders, cancer, arthritis and respiratory diseases are the result of stress.
Depression is present at all ages but can be acute particularly when women age and their responsibility diminishes, children do not need them so much and they do not work any more. Loneliness, despair is signified in some women by the loss of appetite, insomnia, loss of interest on people and things, and physical ailments. Other factors can contribute to depression such as stressful life events, personality traits, guilt and frustration.
The rate of suicide for older women is low in comparison to that of men. Even if women attempt to suicide, they do not complete their attempts. The peak of suicide coincides with life changes such as children leaving home, divorce, widowhood and other mental disorders. Widows with strong attachment to people are less likely to commit suicide than those who have withdrawn from social contact.
There are some elderly women who choose to take drugs or to become alcoholic in order to forget that they are alone. If the drug usage is limited, the use of alcohol among elderly women is high. The problems are the same, and it is strongly linked to depression and loneliness. Today, more liberal attitudes toward alcohol and drugs consumption encourage people to use them for having fun, without taking into account the fact that they are very dangerous for your health. Therefore, all these dysfunctions lead to a sort of self destruction and do not help women to deal with the bad period they have to face.
The image of older women has been rather negative, because they have been depicted as old maids and inactive persons.
Regarding health, older women have been regarded as less healthy than older men, but despite this fact it is said that women live longer than men. This longevity has been attributed to the social and psychological variables of happiness, performance IQ and socio-economic status. But the image of an older woman is that of a passive person whose identification rests on her connection to a man, while a man is seen to have an identity that does not depend on a woman. Those who are very attached to their husbands are not prepared to remain widows, but those who feel independent may enjoy this new freedom. They are looking for a new involvement in leisure time activities, volunteer work, or in paying occupations. This status brings more than independence for older women. The financial, social and psychological problems can be overwhelming, especially for those widows who have low income and close relatives as children who do not help them. The results are poverty and loneliness. With the lost of their husband they discover that they also lose some of their “presumed” friends. Many of them fear that they may be victimized by thieves, muggers and even rapists and that is why they do not venture far from home. They would undoubtedly enjoy getting out more, but circumstances force them into isolation.
While social isolation usually affects older women, cultural isolation is a common phenomenon for older women in general. Studies suggest that older women are able to teach students and they are reliable employees, but the outside world is not of the same opinion.
However, the image of an older woman is more likely to be that of the kind of granny who spends her days knitting and attending church. Or they may be involved in charitable organizations as volunteers.
In some countries older women are appreciated and are seen as an authority over the younger females in extended families. They are engaged in some kind of business enterprise and their opinion is very important for the rest of the family.
4.2.1 Older ethnic women
Minority older women have the same label as older women have in general but they encounter some challenges different from those of the native women. This situation is more often encountered in America, where the number of immigrants is very high.
For example, black and Hispanic women aged 65 and over have a lower income than white women. As it is pointed out, older women are poor by any standard, but women belonging to ethnic groups are facing more problems such as the lack of employment. They live only in the suburbs and have a lower level of education, fact that also contributes to the poverty of their family. Many of them have not even finished a high school, thing that has been associated with the higher fertility rates and labor force participation. Minority women are less likely to find a job who ensures them a decent retiring pension, and that is why they are obliged to require health-related early retirement.
Most Hispanic women are married rather than divorced, separated and widowed, and older women are viewed as the pillar of the family, because they make the household, childrearing and take important decisions. Their children prefer to leave home after they get married; the percentage of older women living with their children is of only 10 percent. The American-Indians who live in America have shorter life expectancy and are the poorest people in the United States. Older Indians are even poorer than younger Indians.
The East Asian Americans, including Chinese, Filipino, Japanese, Koreans, etc. represent 1% of the United States population. The majority lives in the metropolitan areas of California and Hawaii. They do not suffer from severe immigration restrictions, but one fifth of the Japanese-American elderly are poor. Most of the Filipino- American population is male and that is why they have interracial marriages.
Older black women face many difficulties as this race has been discriminated all over the time. Most of them live in the South, due to the great departure of the younger black families to the metropolitan areas such as the North America. Women in the role of wives cannot take decisions regarding money and economic security, but they have an influence in the family over the younger people. They are free to visit their relatives, to go shopping, to attend a church, but they don't have the last word in family decisions. The spouseless women are more likely to spend time outside the home with friends, while the married women often visit their relatives.
Because of the poor conditions they have, black women experience widowhood earlier in life and have higher widowhood rates (especially women older than 65 years).
Black elderly couples are more likely to live together with their grandchildren, nieces and nephews than white couples. They serve as a point of anchorage and help their children's new family. The black grandmother has been a source of love, strength and stability because she has learned how to face unkindness from the white society in order to survive. She has also raised children, caring for them, curing common illnesses, and preparing tasty meals from little food.
The influence of the old black woman has diminished since black families migrated to urban areas and adopted another life style. The black grandmother has remained a moral support for the rest of the family, but she doesn't live any longer together with her grandchildren, being only visited from time to time by them. The parents' house is still a place where children, grandchildren gather during the summer or at Christmas to renew, maintain and strengthen family ties. Black widows do not have children at home and have little contact with their close relatives; they do not even attend church, being thus isolated from the outside world. Some of them are so poor that they do not have plumbing facilities, hot and cold water, indoor toilet or shower. Most of older black women live in poverty and frequently have jobs with long hours and poor working conditions.
Thus older ethnic women have to fight in order to survive as many white and resident women do, facing the same or worse life conditions.
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